How does it work?
There are many ways massaging the prostate, it can be done both internally (direct) and externally (indirect). Do you want to start slow? Then it’s best to start at the outside massaging the prostate. Do this by lightly pressing the perineum. It’s the part between the scrotum and anus. Make a circular motion with your thumb and slide your fingers along the anus. Make sure the man lies on its back and is relaxed. At the same time, you can give him a hand-job or blowjob.
Is he excited now? Then you may go a step further by doing an internal prostate massage. If the man lets his legs fall out more and is relaxed, you will know he finds this arousing. At that moment, a little more pressure can be applied to the anus.
Pay attention! Make sure you use enough lubricant when doing an internal prostate massage.
Slowly put one finger inside and keep it lightly bend, in the direction of the underbelly. You may compare it with the G-spot massage (link: sex toys for women blog). After all, it’s called the P-spot for a reason, a sensitive and intense spot in men. When you have inserted your finger, you should feel a bumpy spot the size of a walnut or chestnut. You can gently massage this by rotating your finger or making a ‘come here’ movement. Do not make ‘penetration movements’, because this can sometimes be experienced as uncomfortable.
Are you convinced now and do want to go all the way? Then you can combine internal and external prostate massage with each other. Slowly increase the pressure between your thumb and index/middle finger and keep making a massaging motion. This results in twice as much intensity. Finish it off by satisfying the penis. By the way, the man can do this himself as well, so that the person giving the massage can use two hands. For the person massaging, it’s important to keep attention and be careful. Besides it being a sensitive subject to talk about, it’s also a sensitive spot.
In short, a prostate massage is nice, healthy, intense, and something of our time. Challenge yourself and explore. Once you have experienced this, you will want more. And if you don’t like it, just leave it. Nothing is mandatory! But now that you have tried it out, let’s agree on something. The next time you talk with your friends about sex, just admit you have been exploring. Trust me, this also helps your friends being more open and explore. We can break the taboo.