February 14 is Valentine’s Day. It is widely known that secret lovers give each other gifts on this day. Romantic and sentimental.
But once upon a time things started differently. In the 3rd century, a priest and a bishop, both named Valentine, died on February 14. They didn’t lose their head to love, but by a blow from the executioner with his sword.
When PROUD (the interest group for and by sex workers) existed one year in 2016, they decided to celebrate by declaring the day after Valentine’s Day, February 15, as the Day of Paid Love.
Now you’re probably surprised by this turn of events. You might think: what do the bloody beheadings and sad end of lives of both men by the name Valentine have to do with this sweet and romantic love celebration? Well, believe it or not, even readers of this blog struggle to see the connection between love and proud professionals.
This brings us to the contemporary debate that has been going on for years: “Pay for sex”
Now back to today. I’m in the kitchen with my good friend drinking a glass of wine. We talk about the past and I challenge him to talk about intimate matters. I used to work as a high-class escort and I’m curious to see whether he will judge me or if he’s more open minded than I think. He starts talking about his experiences with sex and reluctantly says he has been to a sex club. I then asked him whether he has ever paid for sex. He remained silent…
So, to make him talk some more about the matter, I admitted that I once booked a gigolo and therefore paid for an evening of fun. And yes… It wasn’t long after that he admitted having paid for sex. He even added the fact that it was strange he was being so narrow-minded about it.
Well… Is it today’s world? Or do we say it’s because of education and way of thinking?
From an extensive SM Experience to a refined erotic massage: you name it, but it’s all for sale. What makes getting paid or paying for intimacy such a taboo?