If a man looks at a woman for more than 8,2 seconds, it means that he is attracted to her. Does he only look 4 seconds, he doesn’t. Men are hunters and want to be quick. The best way for a lady of letting the man know she is interested, is by giving him a sincere smile. While men might think they are hunters, freely engage in courtships and think highly of themselves, a little bit of encouragement is needed to make them aware they have a shot. Women are natural temptresses and are very clear in their body language.
Back to our hunter with his prey; your partner. The hunter seduces its prey, gives her attention and compliments, and approaches her. She lets herself be seduced, goes with him and has sex. Does that make you jealous? Or does it turn you on because it shows how your partner is still very attractive to others?
And what if it’s you. A beautiful lady sees you and seduces you with her gorgeous smile. She makes you feel warm inside, this attention feels pleasant. She approaches, shows interest, caresses her soft hands over your shoulders and looks at you with her beautiful eyes.
Maybe you don’t recognise it, but that tickling sensation you get from this attention is caused by oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. This hormone gives the same feeling when using cocaine or eating lots of chocolate. It gives you a thrill. You feel nice and wanted… But there is no question of love.
Next to that, it gives your relationship a huge boost. Your ego is hurt, your ‘primal brain’ is triggered: It’s your partner and you want to show again that you’re the best for him or her and that your love is the strongest. You drag your partner by his or her hair out of that cave and you make love to her or him. Sex with love, love with sex. Allow and experience.
Sex without love can mean something for your loving relationship. It can strengthen the love and also bring back the fiery sexual desire you have for each other. Intimacy, skin hunger, mental satisfaction, all terms that make sexual desire so much more than just ordinary sex.
Are you triggered? But is such an erotic party a step too far? And do you want to discover if you can strengthen the love between you by freeing your sexual desires? Everything step by step, your limits, your wishes… Consider hiring a professional.